Trust in a Relationship
When someone thinks about the most significant quality in a family member, a friend, or a person he or she meets new, the term ‘trust’ immediately comes to mind. It is something that one cannot ignore. It has always been there in human nature. There are different variations within the trust for example naked trust or dry trust etc. Therefore, Trust is a complex fragile term involved in a person’s day-to-day life, it plays an important role in forming or creating rifts in relationships and is present in everyone’s life from birth till death even if he/she is not aware of it. A group of lab partners was having a heated argument among themselves one hour before their lab report was due. They had divided their work by forming two teams. Unfortunately, both the groups came up with different calculations. Tension and sweat had stormed everybody’s faces. In this case, Mike, a student is known for his genius thinking spoke up “Guys! Trust me, I’m sure my group did it right.” “Trust!” John cried out with a sense of frustration and cation in his voice. Everyone around the table also pounced on this pitiful world, while poor disappointed Mike retreated back to his original position on his stool. Trust is an integral part of everybody’s day-to-day life.
But what does it really mean? According to Merriam Webster, the term ‘trust’ means assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something (Merriam Webster). In simple terms, trust refers to having faith in someone, without knowing what the outcome would be. Trust is just like glass. Once it is shattered; it will never be the same. That’s why trust has such a high value in this world. When someone experiences the pain in trust, he or she cannot take the risk of getting hurt again. Thus, they always try to build walls of emotional guard around them for protection. A sense of fear prevails in their minds which makes them reluctant to trust again. The most common reason why people lose trust is when someone lies, betrays or fails to uphold promises. When trust is broken, the only possible solution is forgiveness which is very hard to grant at that moment. Many ‘turncoats’ have the tendency to take advantage of the trust you put in them without even thinking about the possible consequences you’ll have to face for a split second. So chose wisely when you trust someone no matter how big or small the reason is. Once it is broken, it can take a year or possibly a decade to gain trust again. However, it will certainly not be the same as before.
How it works
Overall, trust is a maze, which is hard to solve, a barrier in life, and an extraordinary feeling which sometimes leaves all of us vulnerable in front of those ignorant and inhumane turncoats. Trust can be found in ordinary things, for example, a pet relying on its owner for food and care, or it can also be seen in complex and many serious issues, for example, two cops watching each other back at work. Both of them blindly trusting each other with their lives. Just imagine the level of trust between them. Life is precious to everyone and giving it in the hands of another person is certainly a very daring thing to do. Every friendship is built upon trust. Good friends will never let other friends do something wrong or stab them in the back in any form throughout their lives and will expect others to do the same for them. If someone knows that one can handle responsibility and is capable of doing the right thing even if they are not asked, he will for sure extend a hand of support. A friendship where trust is considered sacred is always a fruitful one and lasts till the last breath of those involved. However, this is not always the case. When friends take each other’s trust them lightly, that relationship is bound to fail. This is summed up by Steig Larrson’s famous saying in his work “Friendship- my definition- is built on two things. Respect and trust. Both elements have to be there. And it has to be mutual. You can have respect for someone, but if you don’t have trust, the friendship will crumble.” ( The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo). Let’s dive into a real-world example that my uncle Adolf Hitler disclosed while I was interviewing him. (Interview with uncle Adolf Hitler). “So uncle, you are sixty-six years old now, have you ever encountered a friendship where you got along pretty well initially and then the guy broke your trust?” I asked him closely. “Yea, when I was in my forties. I wanted to buy stocks in the stock market. I had like $70000 sum of money. One of my old school friends offered me to invest in his business, well that devil turned out to be a traitor. He stole my money and shook me off with a reason that the business market went into loss and my cash went down the drain!” There was a pain in his eyes. “I am so sorry for your loss” I replied with sympathy. “Listen here young chap, the world is pretty dark. Ya never know what’s out there.
Some people are wolves inside with sheep costumes on top to deceive you”. He replied with a cold face. Those right there, are words of wisdom with the same lesson, chose wisely who you trust! Trust has always been an important part of everyone’s life. It is there whether they are aware of it or not. When we are born, we know our parents will shower their love and affection upon us. In our teenage, we all expect our family and friends alike to guide us on the straight path and support us in making correct decisions. During our high school and college years, we trust our teachers to grade us accurately and polish us in the best possible way for the real world. All of us expect our life partners to love and take care of us throughout our adult years. We rely on our children and relatives to take our care once we are old. Even on the day we die, we know that our relatives, family, and friends will bid us farewell at our funeral into the afterworld. We all trust everyone we know to pray for our forgiveness from God after our death. Although our destination in the afterlife depends upon our deeds in this world, we all sometimes expect and trust God to grant us heaven. Therefore, trust follows us everywhere throughout our lives. It is the moral foundation of every relationship. It is like constructing a building. As you cannot build something without a firm foundation. Similarly, you cannot build a relationship without trust. Always trust someone who is special to you. A blind trust may lead you to failure. This the reality and we all have to live with it.