Low Self-Esteem and Abusive Relationships
Domestic violence is the third leading cause of distraught and the ruining of one’s self esteem. It can ruin someone physically and mentally, by the hurtful words and painful hits towards one. Since the beginning of civilization, intimate relationships have experienced domestic violence within household. According to www.clarkprosecutor.org, women and men across America have experienced it, nearly 20 people in the United States are brutally beaten by their intimate partner. Domestic violence can happen to anyone, yet women tend to experience the traumatic events more than men. According to www.domesticviolenceroundtable.com, women suffer from domestic violence by 1.4 million more than men. As a community, we should give back to the women who are in need and are suffering by domestic violence by collecting makeup and toiletries from women in shelters.
Domestic Violence has been visible throughout history. In the early years, women were considered property of a husband and therefore in his control. According to the law, a man could beat, threaten, and divorce his wife for a crime committed by her. These laws were required until the feminist movement of domestic violence by the media. It was very common for police officers to come across domestic violence cases and get complaints of abuse, but arrest remained rare.
The attention of domestic violence began when the women’s movement of the 1970s began, it came within feminism and women’s rights. It started to gain attention because women started to realize they did not deserve to be treated and beaten the way they were, it was brutal and uncalled for.
As a result in the 1980s, a gather of women started to make a movement happening with more understanding and responses to domestic violence. The change in domestic violence for women rapidly changed. Abused women were no longer invisible, more than millions of women who were beaten was brought to the attention by shelters, new reporters, and law-enforcement. Due to the attention brought to women, people had a better understanding of what they went through. Millions of women shelters, hotlines, and support groups opened across the country for women who are suffering with domestic violence. According to www.nlm.nih.gov, women trying to get what they want, importance of them were gained.
Women are much more likely to be victims of domestic violence, usually men see women as a easy target. According to www.huffingtonpost.com, women are 85% of domestic abuse victims and men are 15% of victims. Both genders struggle with domestic violence, but women have a higher chance to getting beaten than men. Studies have shown that hispanic women are more known to live in a domestic relationship than any other ethnicity. Recently, it has come to show many women are coming to shelters due to domestic violence. According to www.huffingtonpost.com, 1,500 shelters are filled with women have been beaten brutally at home, so they come to their local shelter because they have nowhere to go to.
When women leave domestic abuse, they are often are forced to leave their home with nowhere to turn. According to www.aclu.org, 50% of United States cities surveyed reported that domestic violence is primary cause of homelessness in 2005. Yet, women who are vulnerable are at greater risk at being beaten and poverty limits women’s choices which makes it harder for them to leave violent relationships. For example, women living in poor neighborhoods are more likely to be victims of domestic abuse than women living in safe environment homes. Women usually fear making life changing choices and they are the only person who can help their abuser with problems. Leaving is a process, breaking free from an abuser is not as simply.
Due to the women who have better this domestic violence world, they now have a shelter to go to when they need somewhere to go. Domestic violence shelters is a safe place where victims of domestic abuse can get help and temporary housing. Shelter for victims are critical because they are threatened with homelessness. Shelters provide immediate protection from danger and emergency shelter and long term. It gives them time to recover, rebuild their lives, and get back on their feet. Recently, the workers at the women’s shelters are wanting to provide more for the women. They are asking for the community to donate unwanted makeup and toiletries to their local women’s shelter. Giving back to the people in need will impact their life and themselves immensely, it will give them the self-esteem they want and deserve in their lives.
I believe collecting minimal things for women in need is a great thing to do. It will empower those women who need it and will give them the self-esteem they deserve. Makeup really helps women start to feel way more better about themselves and empower them that if they feel good, they will do good in this world. The women in shelters will start to realize they have a purpose to prosper. They are all trying to get their life back together without toxic people in their lives. Donating will make a huge difference to them and make you feel good that you helped someone in need. It is always a good heart when someone does the right things by donating to the needy, because no matter how small or minimal we think a donation may be, it means the world to women knowing that someone cares for them enough to get them something to make them feel beautiful. No one will know that small donation that you make may evolve into something way more than ever thought. Also, doing a good deed by donating to less fortunate may inspire them to pay it forward and help someone else in need. For example, Project Beauty Share is a non-profit organization set out to collect cosmetics and beauty products for women in difficult circumstances. This is a perfect example that one little thing can evolve into something bigger and greater. Julie Farley (owner) states, Makeup is not necessary and it is not needed for survival, but it is so much more than just makeup to the women receiving these products. Julie did not expect for her foundation to go so extreme, her foundation has definitely became into something more she now has; beauty bus foundation, interviews, and her own makeup line dedicated for women in need. Few things could seem so little to you, but to someone else it is what them feel whole again.
Everyone in this world deserve to feel beautiful and has a purpose on this Earth. One thing could change someone’s perspective in this life. Donating makeup to a local or women’s shelter could not only inspire you, but someone else to feel empowered and that they can make a difference. For example, a woman in the shelter may have been getting ready for their job interview, now they have makeup to make them feel confident and look presentable. So, my action plan is to influence other to make a difference in someone else’s life, by donating makeup and toiletries to someone in need in shelters. It is also a good idea to give back to people in need because it is not much, you do not need to spend any money, just look in your into your makeup drawers and spend out unused makeup products and toiletries. This will effect the women who have been abused in a positive way, they will feel deserving that someone cares for them. They have never felt loved or cared for before because all they have been is traumatized by the hurtful and powerful words towards them. You giving them something minimal will make them feel happy, something they have not felt in a very long time. No women on this Earth deserves to be beaten or treated poorly and giving them item they will need will give them that reassurance they always prayed for. Like the motto, Just as ripples spread out when a single pebble is dropped into water, the actions of individuals can have far-reaching effects. Doing one good deed can make a million good deeds. So giving back to shelters, will give them the simple reminder they are beautiful and no one will ever harm them again.
In realization, women in shelters do not have the same opportunities and enough money for certain things. Women who are victims of domestic abuse tend to struggle with self-love and happiness because those walls have been broken down by harmful actions by one and those walls to be builts back up again can take a very long time, dealing with the pain day by day. So, giving back to women in shelters who are in need of certain things can make a huge difference to them in a positive way. Makeup can boost their confidence and make them feel comfortable in their own skin. They will see themselves as something more than worthless. Your simple actions by giving back to your local shelter, can change their whole perspective on themself.