As Adults we Dream of having Kids
As adults we dream of having kids, but we know this comes with responsibilities. One phase we deal with is discipline how we are going to teach the child right from wrong. Some parents use love, moral ethics and values. Parents should discipline kids in a productive way like be the authoritative parent who provides the best combination of love and discipline and but is not overbearing, is compassionate yet firm authority.
They have clear boundaries but are also very loving. But there are other’s parents that use aggression, spanking and the use of profanity and forget the importance of effective discipline. They become the neglectful parent. The parent that doesn’t express much love and doesn’t really care enough for the child’s needs or discipline. The parents’ neglect may be due to their own trauma and chaos, like an addiction. Children should not be emotionally or physically disciplined for three reasons.
First off if you choose to be a parent this means you would want to be the best parent you can be. But today you have ineffective parenting because not all parents have the required parenting skill that is necessary to raise a child in a positive environment throughout the entire childhood. Lack of parenting skills can lead to inadequate development of child and in the long run it will affect the child’s social skills and his communicative skills with society very badly. It is very important that parents remain alert while raising their kids and should get rid of any attribute that leads to ineffective parenting. This can lead to neglect.
A child will always look for security from their parents. Parents should be careful to avoid any situation that may make their kid feel unwanted. Responsible parents will always try hard to offer the best sense of security for their kids. Ignorance from the parents’ side would make the child feel lonely and not loved. Some parents abuse their kids physically and many who abuse their kids verbally. Both have long term negative impact on the growth of the child.
Parents have rights to correct their children, but they should be careful about the body language and language they are using. Parents must avoid being harsh to their children and should handle them delicately for it becomes a form of neglect. Both physical abuse which is when you hit your kids on a constant basis and verbal abuse which is the constant putting down and use of profanity is inhumane.
Being inhumane is the worst thing we can become as parents or as human beings because as a child most of us are taught to love, respect and cherish one and another to learn and grow in a harmonious atmosphere. Although some children grow under unfortunate circumstances this does not mean we have to act inhumane. There are parents who get a sense of pleasure out of treating children abusively. There are parents who, having been raised in strict and abusive environments that they repeat the pattern and the mistakes their parents did when they become parents themselves. The truth is there is many cases were parents don’t have compassion for their children they feel their children bring them misery, so they make their children suffer and this is cruel and inhumane.
The reality is we don’t need to live in a world where our children can’t be safe there is ways to stop the neglect and the ineffective parenting. We can’t expect children to predict with accuracy what will happen if they misbehave. We can however prepare ourselves to deal with the child in a positive manner.
Like do you spend time each day with your children engaging in meaningful activity or conversations? Do we take time to talk through misunderstandings and misbehaviors when we are calm and level-headed? By practicing these few things, we can stop being inhumane but to do this we must come together as a community and if we see something, we know isn’t right report it because you must imagine yourself in that child’s shoes wouldn’t you want to be helped if you were that child. We don’t have to be abusive in any way with children as parents to get a point across all they need is guidance and love. Children deserve respect too.